Know the difference between goals and intentions and use them both according to their design.
If you can relate to any of the following scenarios, what I’m about to share with you will get you on track for success and satisfaction:
You get the job and the house and still feel empty. You’re clear about the caliber of man you want to meet, but somehow never meet him. You get in the best shape of your life, are dating someone really nice, but still feel lonely. You can’t seem to land the gig you want.
The truth is…
The universe isn’t flawed + you’re not unlucky. You just have your goal/intention wires crossed. Click to Tweet
Let’s get you re-wired.
Goals are concrete actions leading to a specific endpoint. They are measurable and constrained by physical time and space.
Intentions, on the other hand, are overarching directional desires. They are non-linear pulls from the depths of your soul. They are north stars that help you navigate.
Two common wiring errors:
1. You set goals that aren’t aligned with your intentions.
This happens when you reach for goals you think you are supposed to go for, rather than listening to that hum in your bones. The symptoms of this wiring error look like a nasty people-pleasing habit, being overly flexible, not being honest about the fact that you loooooooove your job and really don’t feel good in your soul about being a full-time stay home mom and you don’t SAY anything about it.
2. You think you have goals, but they are really intentions.
This all too common wiring error is getting handled, right now! Take this real life example from one of my clients. I asked her to set one clear actionable goal. Her response:
“I don’t want to get sucked into my mom’s neediness and drama and end up feeling guilty and ashamed every time I talk to her.”
Ahem… That’s not a goal. It’s an intention. It’s something she wants deeply for herself, with all of her heart and soul. It’s commendable and awesome… and it’s still not a goal. After clarifying the difference between goals and intentions and some deep self discovery, she came up with this:
“I will not allow myself to answer my mom’s calls or texts Friday night through Monday morning. I told her that I will not be available for talking during this time.”
Now that is a goal.
It’s measurable. It’s not open-ended, vague or subjective. She’ll know if she did it or not and it is constrained by time. It’s very doable, but still challenging for her.
By setting a clear goal that supports her in the direction of her intention, she’ll be able to cross the finish line and feeeeel successful. That small win will fuel her to set another, more challenging goal, and on and on she goes in the direction of her intention.
When you achieve goals that support your intention you feeeel successful because you are! Click To Tweet
Challenge yourself to be accountable. In the comments, write one intention you have and one clear, measurable, time-constrained goal that will move you in the direction of your deepest desire. I’m cheering you on!